Divorce is very costly, not only in terms of
finances, but also in expenditure of time, energy and emotions.
Following are some possible answers to questions you may have:
1. Where might I find helpful
information?
Visit your local library to find helpful
books or go on-line. Some websites that we think have
helpful advice are:
2. I am concerned that my children
may be adversely affected by my divorce. How can I avoid
this?
You may be surprised to learn that a 2004
study involving children living with a single parent reported
that children in a single parent home are the same emotionally
and psychologically as children whose parents are not divorced
(see
www.familylawcentre.com). It also showed that
children's well-being is more influenced by the quality of the
relations they have with the adults in the home.
If you want help with coping skills for
yourself or your children, the Sun Country Health District
provides counseling for those who may be affected by separation
or disruptive family situations. In Weyburn, you can call
842-8665 or call 1-800-216-7689 to find the centre nearest you.
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3. How can I reduce financial costs?
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Try to separate the emotional and legal issues.
Look at your divorce as a way to move on to a better life for you
and your loved ones. Don't allow emotion to influence your
decisions.
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Unfortunately, no one in a divorce achieves
what they want - or feels they deserve. There are two people
involved and the courts attempt to be impartial. Accept that
you will get your share of the property - probably half.
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Don't use your lawyer as a counselor.
Before each meeting or phone call with your lawyer, list the
things you wish to discuss. Stick with the facts. Each
minute you spend with your lawyer costs you money.
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If you cannot afford a lawyer, make an
appointment with Legal Aid. Their lawyers are excellent -
but overworked. If you have to wait for an appointment,
don't be overly concerned. Sometimes having time to reflect
is important!
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If you and your spouse wish to avoid the
emotional and financial cost of court proceedings, you may choose
mediation or collaborative law. Neither of these options
require appearances in court, so costs are reduced.
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There are "Self Help" kits for an uncontested
divorce and to vary child support orders at the Local Registrar's
Office.
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